This seems to be a constant whisper, a hidden or even blatant message I keep hearing in the world around me. "Don't be too needy, or no one will want to be around you." "Don't be too needy; that's selfish." "Don't enable a needy person." "Needy people need serious counseling."
But here's a little dose of truth: Every. Single. Human. Being. Is. Completely. Needy.
Yes. I just lumped you in with the needy people. Sorry, not sorry.
The facts are simple:
We can't be righteous in our own strength; we're sinners (Romans 3:10, 23).
We can't solve our sin problem on our own (John 14:6; Hebrews 10:1-18).
We can't seek God without His enabling (John 6:44).
We need God for the saving of our souls. We need God for our joy, peace, goodness, self-control, and everything else (Galatians 5:22-23)! Without God there would be no earth (Genesis 1-3). Christ sustains the world that He made (Hebrews 1:3). We have nothing without God.
See, that's where the problem is with "needy people." The problem is not that people are needy. The problem is that sometimes people seek the fulfillment of their needs in people, things, or accomplishments, and they fail to realize that God is the only one Who can supply their needs.
That being said, God does want Christians to love and serve each other--we are supposed to care for our brothers and sisters in need! "Bear ye one another's burdens" is still in the Bible (Galatians 6:2).
Yet when we find ourselves or others becoming a little too "needy," it is time to learn to depend upon God. This won't be a quick-fix. Though it sounds a little funny, you may need to help the "needy" person learn to depend on God if they've lost their way and don't know where to start.
But, ultimately, each of our needy, needy hearts can only be satisfied by Almighty God.
"But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus."